Where do I begin with 2016. It is considered the worst year for millenials due to all the celebrity deaths, terrorism, and Trump becoming president. 2016 for me definitely faced many challenges, but, it gave me the opportunity to finally experience what being an adult is. I remember on New Year’s Eve in 2015 I was looking forward in the new beginnings and adventure I was going to have for 2016. However, it wasn’t exactly as how I planned the year for it to be. In fact, it was full of surprises (some not good) that has shaped me as an individual. As I look back on 2016, this is what the year brought me.
At the beginning of the year I was still happy in my relationship. I saw a future with him and I couldn’t wait to finish school so I could start it with him. I haven’t had much experience in relationships, so 2016 was my first serious relationship. I did what every relationship did, such as going on vacation and having the family involved. I shared my feelings to another person, I was vulnerable with him. I showed him my good side but also my bad side. I saw his good and bad side, but, both didn’t matter to me. I loved that emotional connection and being able to experience a man’s love. It made me excited to finish work and to see him, even just for 2 hours. It shocked me that I was able to give so much love too as I hid my vulnerability through humour. We even talked about living together too. I was looking forward to many experiences we would have as a couple in the future.
Unforunately, my first relationship was short lived. He broke up with me halfway through 2016. This made 2016 the worst year for me because I was extremely heartbroken as I saw a future with him and he didn’t. I was working hard on a future for us. Also, it happened during a time period where I was looking for a full time job as I just finished school. It happened so fast, so sudden. He came to my convocation and 2 weeks after, we were no longer together anymore. This made 2016 a lot more difficult for me as I was devastated at the outcome. To this day, I’m still currently not ready to begin another relationship. But it has taught me that relationships end, they’re not forever, and people are extremely selfish. There’s nothing wrong with that, it just taught me a lesson so that I can be smarter on my next relationship. I usually cry, but I cried, and I didn’t feel weak crying, I felt like I just released all my feelings I had of us. I became more honest with my feelings, something I struggled with. I asked for help, from my friends and family and they were able to pull me back together. The break up has made me stronger as I felt like my world had ended, but slowly, I began fighting for my happiness.
- Entering Adult World
I graduated university. 2016 was the last year where I will finally stop learning at an educational institution and was finally getting exposed to work life. The struggle to find a full time job was evident. I remember I would spend hours a day applying to jobs online and just looking at my resume every single day. I remember I was so frustrated as I felt my friend’s and peers were getting great jobs while I was still not. It took months to finally actually find a job. It just took patience and I’m glad as I was able to take some time off to reflect on my life. I felt lost after my break up and having done school, as these two were my foundations as what made me as an individual. So, slowly I was starting to learn more about myself and I feel 2016 gave me more of an understanding of myself. 2016 is also the year to start building my and I can’t wait where it will take me in the future.
As I said before, I had to fight for my happiness and I wanted to be happy again so I went to 6 different places in 6 months. I went to Mexico with my ex, which was the first time experiencing an all inclusive resort life, a vacation that many Canadians takes. I wanted to learn more about my country and I took a trip to British Columbia, a province I have always wanted to visit. I reconnected with one of my good friends and visited her in Northern Ontario. I went to a country where I did not speak the language and forced myself to learn the language so I could communicate with the locals (Japan). I went back to a country to reconnect with my culture (Hong Kong). And finally, impulsively just went away because I can (Chicago). All of these travels just made me realize I love the adventure and experiencing different cultures. I know it’s very cliched and typical for people my age to say that. But, it made me realize I can’t just do short term travelling, I want to live abroad and learn a new language, and be a local (or immigrant) of a different country.
5. The world is my oyster
At first, I thought life was very linear, just one straight path. It turns out, that’s not the case, as what I experienced in 2016. Life is not easy, and I just got a dose of it. There will be more, but it’s not going to stop my happiness. There’s so many opportunities available and I feel this is just the beginning. I did so many things this year, all of them weren’t part of my comfort zone. Having a great job and being in a relationship are great, but, these do not define you as a person. I was always a person of stability, it is what my parents instilled in me. But, this is not what life is about. So, I will embrace these opportunities to what 2017 will bring to me.
So 2016, you were good to me, but, you caused me so much pain. I’m happy for the person I have become. But, I’m glad this year is over. I experienced the happiest I have ever been, but, also, the worst as well. It wasn’t till the end of this year where I am slowly trying to figure out myself. So cheers to 2017, and thank you 2016, you gave me memories I’ll never forget. And I look forward to more blog writing as more surprises will be along the way 🙂